How do i accept my girlfriend to freely interact?

Are all you other guys in a relationship liek this? I love my girlfriend so much but i think im overreacting. I feel so uncomfy how she talks with other guys! I mean if theyre her friends i can understand that. But some of her friends used to have a crush on her, and it just makes me uncomfortable since she's talking with guys who used to crush on her...and might still do! I also get very irritated when they might say like inappropriate jokes and innuendos. Im also uncomfy how in the past, before we met each other, she probably talked and joked with a whole bunch of guys! They may have said so many inappropriate things to each other (which annoys me because i get this feeling that inaprop jokes should mostly go to a loved one)! She even got hugs from other guys before we met, even though im her FIRST boyfriend! I feel so pissed off and jealous! Anyways, NO she is NOT cheating on me or hitting on other guys in anyway! I'm just starting to become those guys who are strict on their girlfriend and don't allow them to socialize with other men. How do i overcome this? How can i accept the fact that even though she talks to other guys (even the guys im mad at), she still loves me and only me? I keep having this feeling that she should only think of ME in her mind! We both love each other very much but i get scared, annoyed, and mad when it comes to hearing her talk to another guy. I get mad at how her guy friends share stuff with her too! >.<>.<>.< This is affecting me almost everyday! Help please!






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My boyfriends acting how you've just described yourself right now. You have to trust her and know that she's with you, she is crazy about or loves you. I'm fighting with my boyfriend for the past 3 days over this and its hurting us so just trust her. Part of a relationship is growing together and being able to grow apart from each other having different groups of friends. A friend is a friend don't judge him cause he has a penis. If you haven't talked to her about this than do it right away cause she can help. Don't limit her to how many times she can hang out with them just let her be and eventually it will slow down. You must be a great boyfriend to her if your worried about this, and sort of hoping this is my boyfriends post( ha ha i know its not:( ) but just let her talk about her times she spends with her friends because that will mean a lot to her. I don't know much to say but tell me how this gets handled so i can lend an ear to my bf. Hope everything goes well.






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You're acting jealous, that's the bottom line. But wanting to overcome that and feel comfortable makes you a good person.

The best thing to do would be to talk to her about it. Speak plainly and have your thoughts and points organized beforehand so you don't ramble or come off as eccentric during the conversation. If she loves you as much as you say then she'll work this out with you.

good luck guy :)






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Give her a bit of breathing space. You don't want to be too possessive or you'll just push her away. Maybe discuss how you feel with her and her with you